Ain't alimony based on what we made when we split?
Okay, so me and my ex split up 3 years back, and the court did its thing where they decided I gotta pay her a chunk of my paycheck every month for alimony. I was making decent money, and she was too, but less than me. Now, I hear from a buddy that she’s climbed the corporate ladder and is making almost double what she used to. And outta nowhere, I get this legal notice that she’s takin’ me back to court to get more alimony from me! How's that fair when she's making bank now?
Can't I just tell the court she's loaded now?
I ain't exactly rolling in dough myself, and since the divorce, I’ve had to tighten the belt, y’know? I haven’t gotten any huge raises or nothing. I can’t afford a fancy lawyer to argue this for me. Is there a way to just show the court the numbers and say she don’t need my money anymore?
- My original alimony payments were based on our salaries 3 years ago.
- She's now making way more than me.
- I'm still on the same salary as when we split.
Don't she gotta prove she needs more money from me?
I read somewhere that the person who wants more alimony has to show they need it. With the kinda promotion she's got, shouldn't she have to prove she can't make ends meet without my help? It's not like she's got any new expenses or anything, our kids are grown and outta the house.
What should I do now?
I'm in over my head with this legal stuff and I can’t cough up the cash for a lawyer. I’m stressed out thinking she might actually get more money outta me when she’s clearly doing fine.
- Do I need a lawyer, or can I represent myself?
- How do I prove to the court her financial situation has changed?
- What kind of evidence do I need to bring to court?
- Is there a way to stop this from even going to court?
Is there free legal advice for guys like me?
I’m from Buffalo, NY, and I’m pretty sure there’s gotta be some kinda legal aid or advice out there for someone in my shoes. Anyone know where I can get help without breaking the bank? I just need to figure out what my next move should be without getting into more debt.
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